Orgasm – I know it is not this simple but I have to rant about this!

            Men enjoy getting off. That is why we do it. For the simple act of getting off. Not only when we are with a woman. Men get off alone [as known as masturbation]. A lot! And a lot more than we could hope to have sex with a woman. [This is something I speak of with the utmost expertise]

            Why? Because men know something that you ladies don’t. It is up to the individual [him or herself] to get yourself off. It is a personal responsibility. Whether you are alone or with a partner or partners.

            Ladies seem to have this wrongly rom-com notion that it is up to the man to get her off. WRONG!

            I thought about this when reading the following article from Dan Savage on the Stranger online: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=16701721.

In this, you see it implied that the husband is blaming the wife for her inability to orgasms when they have sex. That implication is correct!

The wife seems to think her husband is responsible for her orgasms. That is wrong!

She [the wife] is responsible for her own orgasms. Every time she has sex, she is the only one responsible for her orgasms. Her alone; whether with someone else or alone. So her consternation about not being able to orgasms with him, that is her fault not his.

            Let me put this a different way. I have talked about male masturbation. But the same should apply to female masturbation as well. Whenever someone is masturbating no matter what sex; I think most people would say it is their own responsibility to get off when they are alone. Probably not on anyone else, right? I mean how could it be? No one else is there.

            So let’s go to the other extreme. If a woman is in a gangbang of three men or more; whose responsible for her orgasm then? The 3^rd guy? The 6^th guy? The 8^th guy? Where does it fall? I think if you ask any woman who has been in one, she will say, she was so excited she couldn’t stop orgasming.

So there is no one other than the woman herself who gets herself off. There are just other guys in the room at the same time. How many or what the guys are doing; usually the woman has no idea. Nor does she care.   She is too busy getting off.

            But guess what, it was her excitement getting things done. Not because she was attracted to every guy in the room. Not because she was in love with them. She may not even lust after the guys. She is getting off on the attraction. On the fact that the guys are there for her. Being the center of attention. That is the hook.

            Same goes for a one on one. The guy is getting himself off. But the woman is the center of his attention.

            And if she wasn’t; he would just masturbate. Trust me, it is a lot easier.

            In the end, do women enjoy getting off? I ask that because most women do not act like they do. Men could give a shit what it seems like. Men are too busy getting off.

The women I have met that do enjoy getting off, they get off in a way that is so awesome it is a great experience for all involved. So outside looking in, when a woman owns her orgasm it is AWESOME! All women need to take full responsibility for their orgasms to they can enjoy them more and every time they have sex. And stop worrying about where it was through penis in vagina sex. He obviously doesn’t or else he would ask you to stop. Has he? NO! Because in the end, your orgasm is your’ responsibility, not his.

Just ranting

So all this is about is ranting. Loosely related to sex but not really.
Gary Staton, 37 left nine kids at a hospital. I really don’t understand how he got a 17 year old to actually go along with it but he did. And now, the formerly overwhelmed “father” has donated half the DNA needed to make two more children. http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,529597,00.html?test=latestnews
How?
Who is this Gail who got pregnant by this man? Seriously? Why would you have sex with a man who abandoned? I don’t mean be friends? I really don’t understand that either. I mean seriously, who wants to be friends with a dead beat? That is what he is. He is a DEADBEAT.
But apparently he has changed. Now that family members, who I would believe he did know before he dropped his kids off, are feeding, clothing and taking care of his kids.
The story says that he is seeing his kids. Is he feeding his kids? Is his caring for them?
Now he is adding to it. I am not letting Gail off the hook either. They both did this. But why would you even talk to someone who abandons children?
Why did he have nine kids to begin with? He obviously couldn’t take care of these children.
Why does he still have the ability to have children? Why didn’t he do the responsible thing and get a vasectomy?
I think the answer to all of this is he doesn’t blame himself. If you read the above article from FOX news, no one blames him. No one. Not his kids. Not the in laws who are doing his job. No one.
I hope that Gail’s family takes note of this.
And where are the Christians? Christians love babies but don’t seem as attached to kids. If they were, where are / were they for these kid nine kids?
You know, I love sex. I feel that everyone should enjoy it. But not if it is going to have consequences for you or the ones you love. If you can’t take care of the kids you have, you shouldn’t be having more. I am not saying that everyone should do as I say, although, that would make the world a much better place. But why should I have to take care of your kids, in any way. We have public schools. Looks like soon we will have public health care. I understand the benefits. But still, it honestly pisses me off that I have to take care of other people in any way.
I understand that these kids don’t live in my state. They have been taken in by relatives, which is where they should have been to begin with. But will these next two end up there too? I hope not. But history is not on their side.

Melissa Rycroft is engaged, four months after being outraged that the fiancée dropped her. Where is the outrage? Where is the Bachelor dude? Why isn’t he outraged now? Doesn’t he have the right? Was she sleeping with him while she was supposed to be falling in love in Seattle?
All these dating shows are just not fair. There should be more than just one guy and twenty girls. There should be more even numbers. And they should have to pick each other. Then, these shows would have more of a realistic feel to them.
But really, all these shows should be on the Playboy or Spice channel. They should be forced to have sex to ensure compatibility. I have heard that it happens from time to time on The Real World and Big Brother- especially on the versions from other countries. I think that the ratings would be through the roof. By the way, I have that thought patented.
One more thing, soul mates, sex and marriage. Seriously, what is the deal? This is in response to Governor Sanford. He doesn’t like or love his wife? Seriously? And what exactly is a soul mate? I am just ranting now. But what the blood clot.
I love sex. Love it. But it seems that it is making people do some extremely crazy things here lately. And I don’t like when people use the issue in the wrong way.
Sex should be for fun and enjoyment and making people’s life’s better. I am sure Mrs. Sanford feels bad. But I doubt that the Governor even knows what soul mates are. Because why would you sleep with a soul mate? He needed a new sex mate.
We are finding out that reality now that the news that he was having inappropriate relations with women for years now. Sounds like he was kissing and feeling women up. Which is not very soul mate of him, huh?
First, Sanford should try and not handle this in the public. Neither should Rycroft. And Staton should get a vasectomy. And the rest of the world should listen to me on all matters of sex. I think that is a good idea. Yeah, I can’t give that one up. What do you think?
Seriously, I am totally off track, upset and barely making sense. Ranting and out of control but that is not new. And I have a warped sense of right and wrong. My libertine ways would definitely redefine all marriages. And no one wants that because I doubt anyone could deal with that type of happiness.
My libertine ways would alleviate the conservative guilt that is there. As well as alleviate people of this sense of ownership over others. I am sure that Mrs. Sanford feels bad since her husband goes out either looking for or getting strange wherever. But if she realized that him coming home to her, when he feels like it seems, is better for her then being alone. And I bet she would be content. Seeing as how she probably doesn’t give him “enough” sex. Why not let him get his happy on?
But I am intrigued as to way people do the things that they do. Or why. Or are they just not paying attention at all? I am not sure what the truth is. But I wish I could skip the stories when I see them. I just can’t. They are just so tempting. And then I get upset. And then I start typing. And now you are reading my ranting. Well I can’t rant more. This is random thoughts but I had to type out some of it. I hope that you weren’t bored.

Keep it Kinky

Stepping Lightly

Most of our lives are spent stepping lightly and lively through the minefield that is/ are relationships. We all put so much stake into these relationships, to include friendships around relationships. It is a wonder more people don't step right on a mine and lose vital organs, so to speak.
I got divorced earlier this year. Besides all the stuff, material possessions, that I lost, I lost a lot of pride. My ex tried to accuse me of some heinous things based of non existent accusations. Basically, I am a badperson because I like pornography. Dirty man that I am [and I guess so isanyone other man that has ever looked at porn, I truly pity the guy after me]. Anyway, she failed and the truth prevailed in one respect. But in another, I lost a big part of me in that fight. A part I will never get back.
Then I started two ill fated relationships. One that is still dragging on despite my efforts to end it. And the other is a friendship that I hope can last. I say hope because; I have trouble with friendships the more I move, the farther I get away.
With the second woman, I so much wish that we could have had more.We both had trouble living up to each other's expectations. I blame timing because we could have worked just not right now. But I am so happy just to know her. And to know that women like her exist. There are so many other issues with her though that I am not going into. But, we both want to try and stay friends. It is just a matter of doing things differently then say the TV show "Friends". I think we will keep in touch though. I hope so anyway.
I have other distractions. Mainly, the ambition to start doing other things that are outside a primary relationship. That might be a hard sell off the bat of a new relationship. So, not only was I having problems trying to figure out how to do those things. I am not going to be able to even trythem for the rest of this year. Unless I find the coolest girl in the world.Or I go to Borneo [inside joke there].
So I am going to step into this minefield my way but, I am not evensure what I am doing. I really would like to meet someone that I could fall in love with. But, in the end, as long as I have someone to go to a work function in December with, I will be cool.
I have thought long and hard about whom I should be dating. I havecome to the conclusion that dating a lesbian who has an exception [or may be acception] policy for sleeping with me would be ideal. I would be her fuck buddy. She could have me and a girlfriend. Better if we would share one. I am quite serious about this hypothesis despite my chicken shit nature of actually trying to execute it. I am a chauvinist pig but even I have limits.
Now I have flirted with the very real prospect of asking a co worker out. There are three co workers who are "viable" candidates. The first, I have joked with the "second woman" that I should ask because I am pretty sure she is a lesbian. The second co worker is the woman I am probably closest with and we would have a good time together. But I am not sure if she is in a relationship. And also, perfectly for me, she might be a lesbian too. But for this second woman, I would be more than happy to be her beard. And the last woman I am almost certain is heterosexual and would date me, or at least the me that she thinks that I am.
With the last woman particularly, but also in any office relationship, I have a well seeded minefield. Since I am a pervert, prevert and generally just a sexual person; the more that becomes known to people in the office, the harder my job becomes. My ex tried to spread that information out to as many people as could, classy huh? But anytime you bring your sex life, in any fashion, into the workplace, you could have problems. Actually, just I could have problems. And those are problems I don't want.
So I am going to look elsewhere.
I am not going to use any of the online dating sites. There is one good reason, the aforementioned preversion that I quite frankly don't want to hide anymore than I already do. I have healthy sex drive that I want to share with a woman. And from the commercials I have seen, I don't think that those websites cater to a guy like me. I wouldn't make it on e-harmony or chemistry or match or any of them.
I don't and won't go to bars to troll for women.
It leaves me little recourse. But I do have a couple different courses of action to proceed with.
So what now? Now I once again have to get over my own bitchassness[Thanks Diddy] and at least start looking.
I have treaded lightly so far. I have answered a couple of adsposted by women. Not one of them has been fruitful so far.
So when am I going to take the big leap? Hopefully in time to tryand line up a date for this weekend. That is the desire. But, I am not sureI will meet that deadline. I really just need a pep talk. Someone who I respect who can get me past my aforementioned bitchassness [Though I respect Diddy enough to take his made up word, I don't think he is motivating enough in this arena. Remember, he has never been married. And he has seven kids with four different women, I believe. He is not a good role model in the relationship department. Hell. He lost J. Lo to Mark Anthony. That is some relationship bitchassness.]
Alright, well I will update if there ever is anything to update.Instead of writing this I should have done what I needed to do, post something. I am afraid of failure. And you can't smoke a quitter. But, I will try. I know I will. Why? Because it is truly what I want in life. And quitter never gets what they want.


I AM GETTING MINES!