Why? Because men know something that you ladies don’t. It is up to the individual [him or herself] to get yourself off. It is a personal responsibility. Whether you are alone or with a partner or partners.
Ladies seem to have this wrongly rom-com notion that it is up to the man to get her off. WRONG!
I thought about this when reading the following article from Dan Savage on the Stranger online: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=16701721.
In this, you see it implied that the husband is blaming the wife for her inability to orgasms when they have sex. That implication is correct!
The wife seems to think her husband is responsible for her orgasms. That is wrong!
She [the wife] is responsible for her own orgasms. Every time she has sex, she is the only one responsible for her orgasms. Her alone; whether with someone else or alone. So her consternation about not being able to orgasms with him, that is her fault not his.
Let me put this a different way. I have talked about male masturbation. But the same should apply to female masturbation as well. Whenever someone is masturbating no matter what sex; I think most people would say it is their own responsibility to get off when they are alone. Probably not on anyone else, right? I mean how could it be? No one else is there.
So let’s go to the other extreme. If a woman is in a gangbang of three men or more; whose responsible for her orgasm then? The 3rd guy? The 6th guy? The 8th guy? Where does it fall? I think if you ask any woman who has been in one, she will say, she was so excited she couldn’t stop orgasming.
So there is no one other than the woman herself who gets herself off. There are just other guys in the room at the same time. How many or what the guys are doing; usually the woman has no idea. Nor does she care. She is too busy getting off.
But guess what, it was her excitement getting things done. Not because she was attracted to every guy in the room. Not because she was in love with them. She may not even lust after the guys. She is getting off on the attraction. On the fact that the guys are there for her. Being the center of attention. That is the hook.
Same goes for a one on one. The guy is getting himself off. But the woman is the center of his attention.
And if she wasn’t; he would just masturbate. Trust me, it is a lot easier.
In the end, do women enjoy getting off? I ask that because most women do not act like they do. Men could give a shit what it seems like. Men are too busy getting off.
The women I have met that do enjoy getting off, they get off in a way that is so awesome it is a great experience for all involved. So outside looking in, when a woman owns her orgasm it is AWESOME! All women need to take full responsibility for their orgasms to they can enjoy them more and every time they have sex. And stop worrying about where it was through penis in vagina sex. He obviously doesn’t or else he would ask you to stop. Has he? NO! Because in the end, your orgasm is your’ responsibility, not his.