I like sex. I would like to think most people who know me would agree. I want to enjoy sex more and more.
I also like porn. These can be mutually exclusive. For me, I like both. I don’t need porn. I have plenty of good sex without. It is another, separate like that I have. One can be incorporated with the other so I like to mixed them too.
Opponents of porn often point to the way that lives are ruined. But the first way that lives are ruined is from judgment by small minded people. That is definitely the most prevalent and lasting way that anyone’s live can be ruined. So the small minded ways of others are the first way to ruin another person.
Some people point towards drug use in the porn industry. I am not going to deny that usage. But I will point out that industries that are far bigger and more prominent have much bigger problems.
Very few advocates against porn can actually name an actor or actress that drugs actually affected though. That is like if you ask a believer about the inconsistencies in their holy book, their response to you might be, “Where? What inconsistences?” To which the non-believer should retort, “If you don’t know about them, you should study your holy book a lot closer.” The believer wants to put their head in the sand and not truly know why they should be both for and against something. But that is neither here nor there.
I will give as an example the difference between the deaths of Kurt Cobain and Shannon Whirry better known as Savannah. Both of these people were tortured artist who died in drug related incidents. Cobain committed suicide using a gun. Savannah committed a form of suicide dying in a car accident. Both had drugs in their system when they died.
So which is the bigger threat? I would think the music industry which is all over the place. Radio. TV Shows. Music Videos. Why aren’t there strong voices against music?
Some people will say this is a flawed argument. But this analogy is direct. Mostly because it is not an industry that destroys people. People destroy themselves.
The big wigs, swells or management that run Porn want to have healthy and active stars. That way they make more money. They don’t want people to die any more than the music industry wants to have the ‘27 club’.
What would really help is something that helps the artists deal with their issues. So they can make their respective art for longer. Programs that can help people deal with the things going on in their lives. Not just addiction. But the feeling of fame being truly empty. The way they have to question friendships and relationships. There has to be a way to help them deal with all that stuff. [Look at me talking as if I know what it is like.]
Another thing that opponents will point to is STDs. But there have been very few STD outbreaks in the porn company. Much smaller than in the regular community of people. I am more than willing to bet that both in percentage and aggregate, the number of infected people in porn is way less then in normal life.
Which leads back to simply being more vigilant about preventing STDs. For everyone. That way everyone is safer.
I wish there were more sex positive people out there. I wish therapists would not demonize people for their sexual desires. Have a way to deal with the oversexed partner. Especially if they have similar sex drives in the past.
I am kind of rambling here. I had this thought in my head. I had to get it out. Even if it is incomplete. I just can’t have it rattling around in there. This is far from a complete argument. It is just kind of random ramblings I am putting out there.
I just wish Sex Positive people could all be less worried about being sex positive. Enjoy more sex. Enjoy Better Sex. Everyone should be happy with that, I would think. But, not so much.
Here’s you those out there that like sex. We need more sex positive people.